Today I intended to photograph the new mare for Sarah, so that she can see what whe will be riding during the years ahead. It's not that I imagine the mare unsuitable; in fact she seems ideal. Just courtesy. However my camera batteries need replacing, so I needed to get to the village shop.
However I also need to find some firewood, and was tipped off that a neighbour with a sawmill had some useful offcuts. So in the early afternoon, after a morning heavy with flu symptoms, I took a walk over there. In their kitchen I found my neighbour's wife Lucica, my employee Cornel, two of Lucica's female cousins, and another neighbour Simi who is married to one of the cousins. Clearly, buying something as mundane as a pile of offcuts for firewood would require a few drinks.
The company was interesting. The women were loud, as peasant women can be when feeling unthreatened by the male company. Cornel was not related to any of them, Simi is well known to be under the thumb of his wife (who is reputed to beat him when she is drunk), and I am foreign and therefore neither fish nor fowl. Opinions were expressed openly. The two cousins possessed the sort of plump earthy beauty that I imagine Tolkein envisioned for his hobbits. One was 32 and had been married for 15 years. (Readers can do the maths.) Having a 14 year-old child at the age of 32 seems curious when one, like me, is 43 and without children. With piercing eyes, a strong voice and a powerful gesture expressed with the flat of her hand, she made it clear that she has her husband well under control.
It was revealing to hear them tell that, a decade and a half ago, one young single woman "had seven men after her". Now, it seems, the situation is reversed. Back then, they asserted, a woman had a decent choice of partner. There is a view amongst these peasant women, young enough not to be part of the older generation, nor so young as to be part of the new consumer generation, that femininity relates to being able to run a house well, bring up their children nicely, and keep their husbands on the straight and narrow. Rather than being able (as is the fashion amongst teenage girls) to wear jeans so low cut that kidney complaints are a medically observable statistic during winter.
In such gatherings, conversation invariably tends towards the earthy, full of allusions, alive with tales both the tall and the (allegedly) verifiable. It must be very boring, we decided, amongst the religious sects in the village that eschew drink.
Cornel told me that an ancient aunt of his had died. I wished him my condolences. Then he admitted that she was a Jehovah's Witness, so he wouldn't be going to the funeral because, at the party afterwards, there would only be soft drinks served. No beer or brandy. It wouldn't be a proper send-off for her, so there was no point attending.
After several drinks, it was clear that driving to the village shop would not be an option. However, I did strike a deal for the firewood, and we will start collecting the offcuts tomorrow. So the afternoon was by no means wasted.
However, Sarah will have to wait for the photo.













